4 Different Types of Graduates

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It’s graduation season! This means getting constantly invited to numerous graduation ceremonies and parties and celebrating with people their accomplishment of finally being “done.” If you’ve been to one of these events, things that may have been said to the graduate could sound like the following:

  • “You are the future! Go make a difference now!”
  • “Congratulations! What are your plans now?”
  • “So what’s next!?”
  • “Good Job! Now what kind of job will you be applying for?”

For the graduate themselves, it can be a bittersweet celebration. You have people who mean well, but at the same time that question of, ”What now?” can be a daunting one. For some it’s as easy as applying, interviewing, and getting the position they’ve always wanted but for most, not so much. It doesn’t mean that those who have not found a job yet are lazy bums or have worthless degrees; they just haven’t found that drive yet. Once they find that drive, a switch turns on and they turn into relentless visionaries out on mission!

What I have realized coming out of college and looking back is that there are four different types of graduates. There’s the poster child, the dreamer, the workhorse, and the standstill. After seeing where all my peers went after graduation a few years ago, it was very easy to decipher which one was what. It was pretty interesting to see people’s careers grow and see where their true passions lie. Let me explain to you my thoughts on these four types of graduating mentalities.

The Poster Child

This graduate is what college parents hope their son or daughter can be at the end of their college career. This graduate majored in something “important” or “of high value” in the view of society. They pretty much have a job lined up for them right after college after putting in a lot of hours in their degree and gaining just enough experience. They know exactly how to see things through and commit to a main goal. This type of graduate can accomplish anything because they’re usually pretty damn smart. The only thing is these types of graduates are becoming less common as the years go by. More students are now taking chances at other fields that are of “lower value” in society’s eyes for their own personal aspirations.

The Dreamer

This graduate was usually the person in college who was always creating something, or was extremely passionate about a cause. It didn’t matter how society viewed their major, whether it was admired or looked down upon. This graduate had a big, crazy goal set for themselves and was going to do whatever it took to accomplish it. You may know this person because they constantly live and breathe their vision when they’re around you. It’s like they have this constant, annoying yet inspiring energy about them. They may fail many times, but the dreamer is a growing breed of graduates who are not afraid of taking risks to attain ultimate happiness and fulfillment in their lives.

The Workhorse

They paid for their own tuition, worked multiple jobs, while taking on a full load at school. These graduates are tough, hard working individuals who have one goal, to succeed. You may know a few of these types of graduates because they are usually the first person to be wasted at a party. Because of their insane work ethic, people around them want to help them out in any way they can. Since they’ve been working long stints at various jobs, their big network and extensive job experience will only help them in their journey to grow in their field and succeed in whatever they are doing. Their motto is “no excuses” and inspires anyone and everyone around them. They feel sorry for no one, and may even come off blunt, but only because they know what real hard work is.

The Standstill

They went through the motions of college, worked hard in every class for a degree they thought they wanted. After the ceremony, the graduation parties, and constant congratulatory gifts from friends a family, they go off and apply to the jobs they’ve been studying for. They actually look like “the poster child” at first. They become hired and are excited working in the field they have been working for in their college career. A few months into it, they hate everything about their job and work environment. They then quit their job and arrive at a standstill at their lives, not knowing which road to take moving forward. It is very easy for this graduate to become a little lost and confused, but they need to realize that if they can get through college, they can get through this bump in the road. The best part is they usually have friends such as the poster child, the dreamer, and the workhorse to help them out in times of need.

A graduate can be a combination of various types, but at the same time emphasize one specific type through their characteristics and mentality. They can also change from one type to another in a flash from my experience.

If I had one advice to give all new graduates, it would be that in the “real” world, work ethic is king. In my career I’ve worked with a lot of people from all walks of life, from sales clerks and construction workers to lawyers and retired surgeons. All the happy, successful, fulfilled people I have come in contact with didn’t all have a high paying, respected job, or a degree from a prestigious university, or their own business. The one thing they did have in common was deep passion for what they do and relentless work ethic. For every new graduate for every year, the real work has just begun.

“Things may come to those who wait, but only the things left by those who hustle.” ~ Abraham Lincoln

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Finding Your Passion

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If you were to work a job you hate that pays all your bills, chances are your quality of life won’t be as high as you would like it to be. It doesn’t matter if you feel like that’s how reality is because the truth of the matter is there are people right now who were once in your shoes now doing what they love and making a damn good living out of it. They did so by constantly pursuing a career they enjoyed instead of settling for a job they hated.

What if you don’t have a passion? How can you do what you love when you have no idea what you really love to do?

Sometimes we don’t get to do what we enjoy because survival is our main priority. Today’s common mentality is that a job that is your passion is considered a luxury because not everyone can do what they want in life. The notion is that the “dream” is a highly unlikely goal that probably won’t be accomplished because the “reality” is that you’re not good enough and the people who do work their passions are considered outliers or just plain lucky.

This type of thinking drives me NUTS! Finding a passion and making a living out of it shouldn’t be deemed as a hopeless desire. Human nature has a common tendency to think safe, do minimal, and stay alive. Fear is a great source of survival, but does not necessarily lead to a high quality of living. In order to realize what you truly want to do in life, this self defeating mentality has to go. It is definitely possible and should actually be encouraged through our society now, especially with today’s technology making it easier to share ideas and network with each other.

Here are several strategies that can help you find your passion, whatever it may be.

Give Yourself a Chance.

You have to get over the thinking that “it’ll never happen to me” because that type of mindset prevents you from even having a chance. Everything has to start with a chance and only you can give yourself that first chance in realizing that inner desire.

Take a Second Look At Your Hobbies.

A hobby or generally interest into something is usually what sparks a forest fire of accomplishments. Everyone’s hobbies are different, but the one thing they all have in common is that they have a passionate hobbyist behind them.

If you were to work on something you really like doing, times flies by like nothing! One hour will seem like 15 minutes. Take an activity that is monotonous and uninteresting and 15 minutes will feel like an eternity.

Figure Out Who You Really Are.

In order to truly find what you are passionate about, you have to find out who you are as a person. Forget the status quo or what is traditionally accepted and focus on being you. This may take some time and it’s not going to come easy, but the more you focus on what makes you tick as a person, the easier it will be to find your purpose resulting in your passion.

“. . . there is no more dreadful punishment than futile and hopeless labor.”
   – Albert Camus

Feeling Sorry For Yourself?

If you’re not where you want to be at this very moment in your life, it may due to several factors. Maybe you were placed in an unfavorable position by default. Maybe an unexpected event happened that may have put a damper on your future plans. Maybe you made a bad decision and now live every day with regret. Whatever it may be, the worst thing you can do is to feel sorry for yourself.

I deal with people on a daily basis who want to make a change in their lives for the better, but one of the trends I always see emerging from their stories is that they usually feel sorry for themselves. This is where I usually point out that they still can control the outcome of their lives by making the right decisions.

One example of an excuse is: “It’s so hard to eat right with all these fast food places around!”

These restaurants are not forcing you to eat their food. They have ads to persuade you to consume their product. If you consume it, that was YOUR decision, not theirs.

Another example is: “I have no time for anything!”

If someone kept saying they’re always broke, you may think that they’re not budgeting their money well. The same concept goes for time! Time is one of the most precious resources of life. It is ultimately up to you how and where you spend it. If you don’t have enough of it at the end of the day, only you can do something about it.

Here’s a third example that may be common: “I have to do this, and then that, and then this again. I’m so tired and stressed and only had 4 hours of sleep!”

The mere action of complaining about your day will give you unnecessary stress. Let me break down what REAL stress is.

Examples of weak stress: Cramming for a midterm because you didn’t study early enough. Doing a last minute project because you procrastinated. Complaining how you hate your job but don’t do anything to better the situation because you feel like you can’t.

Examples of real stress: Taking enemy fire in a live battlefield. Fighting a fire for 24 hours straight. Being a negotiator in a hostage situation. Not knowing when your next meal will be.

Bottom line is you may not have it as bad as you make yourself believe. I’ve talked to people who have actually gotten defensive and try to justify their sob stories, but that’s the problem. I’ve heard many people say “Well I have to pay my mortgage, you don’t have on yet so you wouldn’t understand” “You don’t have kids yet so you don’t understand.”

I agree, I’m a young up and coming strength coach and I would no idea right now at this point in my life how it would be to raise a family or own a house. I have met and trained many peoples from all walks of life, and as a result have dealt with people who have the same problems but actually take steps towards solving them!

I’ve seen a soccer mom come into the gym at 6am because that’s the only time she can come in before her kids wake up. I’ve seen burnt out lawyers take cooking classes on the weekends because they decided they want a career change. I’ve seen clients work two jobs to take care of their family, but still take night classes because they still want to pursue their goals!

People always tend to focus on their problems and weaknesses instead of their strengths and possible solution.

You want something in life bad enough, you have to work hard for it. There is no easy way out. You don’t like it? Don’t complain about where you’re at then. The funny thing is people who put in the work always find a way to make shit happen.

Ill give you a small personal example. I run this blog, my Youtube channel, and contribute to a fitness website without owning a laptop or PC. It’s simply possible because of today’s high tech society, a computer is so easy to find and use! Whenever I have access to a computer I’m on it. I’ve only recently purchased a smart phone and I’m currently writing this post on it as you read!

A while back I knew I needed to make some type of web presence but I couldn’t afford a laptop (yes even during college I didn’t own one). I knew, however, there was more than one way to do it. The tools are out there to get whatever you need done. It’s all about having the right mentality. And yes when the time comes, I am planning to invest in a laptop of my own.

It’s possible, get up, believe, and make shit happen!